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Losing someone close is one of the hardest things a person faces, and the paperwork does not pause for grief. This guide sets out the practical steps in plain order — from the first days through to settling an estate — so you or someone you love has a clear path to follow when thinking is hard. It is written as general information only; always seek legal, financial or medical advice for your own circumstances.

Before You Do Anything Else: Give Yourself a Moment

There is no perfect way to move through the hours after someone dies. If the death happened at home, you call 000 or the person's doctor. If it happened in hospital or a care facility, staff will guide the immediate steps. What matters most in the first hour is that you are not alone if you can help it — call a neighbour, a friend, a family member, or a community worker. The paperwork can wait a little while. You cannot.

For many women who have managed households, raised families and navigated bureaucracy in two languages, the instinct is to get things done. That instinct will serve you well in the days ahead. But grief is not a weakness to push past; it is the cost of loving someone. The checklist below is here so that when your mind goes blank — and it will, at some point — you have something to reach for.

Print this guide if that helps. Keep it somewhere you can find it. Hand it to a trusted person who can help you work through it step by step. You do not have to do any of this alone.

The First Days: Certificates and Who to Notify

The death must be registered with Births, Deaths and Marriages Victoria (BDM). In most cases, the doctor or medical examiner certifies the cause of death, and the funeral director lodges the registration on your behalf — this is standard practice and part of what a funeral director does. You can confirm the process at bdm.vic.gov.au. You will need certified copies of the death certificate for banks, superannuation funds, government agencies and the executor of the estate; order several copies at the time of registration, as each request later costs time and money.

Notify Services Australia (Centrelink) as soon as possible — ideally within 14 days. If the deceased was receiving any Centrelink payment, that payment must stop. If you were their partner and receiving a partnered rate of pension or allowance, your own payment may change, and you may be eligible for a bereavement payment or a period of bereavement allowance. Services Australia has a dedicated bereavement line and a bereavement smartform through myGov. Visit servicesaustralia.gov.au/bereavement for the current process and to check what you may be entitled to — thresholds and payment amounts change, so always confirm the current figures directly with Services Australia rather than relying on any printed guide.

Other notifications in the first week include: the Australian Taxation Office (ato.gov.au), Medicare (to cancel the deceased's card and update any family Medicare details), the deceased's superannuation fund or funds, their bank or banks, and their employer if they were still working. The Australian Death Notification Service (ADNS) at deathnotification.gov.au allows you to notify multiple financial institutions in a single step — a genuinely useful service worth knowing about. Keep a simple log of who you have contacted, the date, and any reference number given; this saves repeated calls.

Services Australia: Bereavement Payments and Concession Changes

If you were the partner of the person who died and you were both receiving government payments, Services Australia may pay a bereavement payment to help cover the transition period. The payment is designed to give surviving partners time to adjust their finances without an immediate drop in income. The amount and duration depend on your circumstances and the payments involved — visit servicesaustralia.gov.au/bereavement and use their payment finder, or call the Bereavement Line, to understand what applies to your situation.

Your concession entitlements may also change after a bereavement. If you previously held a Pensioner Concession Card as part of a couple, your card status may need to be updated to reflect your new single status — which can actually increase your concession rate in some circumstances. Check your Seniors Card entitlements with the Victorian Government (seniorscard.vic.gov.au) and your Commonwealth Seniors Health Card status with Services Australia. Utility concessions in Victoria are administered through the Department of Families, Fairness and Housing; the Concessions Victoria website (concessions.vic.gov.au) lists what is available and how to apply.

If the deceased was the primary account holder for any concession-linked utility account, you will need to transfer the account to your name and re-apply for concessions in your own right. Do this promptly — some concessions are not backdated. A financial counsellor or a social worker at your local community health centre can help you identify everything you may be entitled to. This is general information only; for decisions about your own entitlements, speak with Services Australia or a qualified financial adviser.

Banks, Utilities and the Everyday Accounts

Contact the deceased's bank or banks with a certified copy of the death certificate. Each institution has its own process for releasing or freezing accounts; for joint accounts, the surviving account holder generally retains access, but it is wise to confirm this directly. Sole accounts are typically frozen until the estate is administered. The Australian Death Notification Service (deathnotification.gov.au) can streamline notification to multiple financial institutions at once.

Work through utilities methodically: electricity, gas, water, phone, internet, and any streaming or subscription services. Cancel or transfer each one in writing where possible, and keep a copy of the cancellation confirmation. Some providers will require a death certificate; others accept a statutory declaration. If the deceased had a mobile phone, contact the provider to cancel the plan — unused credit is rarely refunded, but the ongoing charge will stop.

Do not overlook digital accounts: email, social media, online shopping accounts and cloud storage services. Facebook, for example, has a memorialisation process; Apple and Google each have a process for accessing a deceased person's account. These are not urgent in the first days, but they matter in the weeks that follow. A trusted family member or friend with some digital literacy can help work through these.

The Will, Probate and the Estate: What to Know in General Terms

If the deceased left a will, locate the original document — it may be held by their solicitor, at the Supreme Court of Victoria's wills registry, or at home in a secure place. The executor named in the will is responsible for administering the estate. If you are the executor, or if there is no will (dying intestate), the process of distributing the estate is governed by Victorian law. Victoria Legal Aid (legalaid.vic.gov.au) has plain-language guides on wills and estates that are worth reading before you engage a solicitor.

Probate is the legal process by which the Supreme Court of Victoria confirms that a will is valid and that the executor has authority to act. Not every estate requires probate — it depends on the size and nature of the assets. Many financial institutions and the Titles Office will require a grant of probate before releasing significant assets. The Supreme Court of Victoria's website (supremecourt.vic.gov.au) explains the current process and fees. This is general information only; an estate lawyer or a public trustee can advise on whether probate is needed in your specific circumstances.

If there is no will, or if the will is disputed, the estate is administered under the Administration and Probate Act 1958 (Vic). The State Trustees (statetrustees.com.au) can act as administrator of an estate and offer guidance to families navigating these situations. Again, this guide provides general context only — for any decisions about an estate, seek qualified legal advice. Victoria Legal Aid can refer you to community legal centres if cost is a concern.

Funeral Planning and Pre-Paid Options: What to Know Honestly

Funeral costs in Australia vary considerably depending on the type of service, location and provider. Requesting itemised quotes from at least two or three providers before committing is entirely reasonable and widely accepted practice. The Australian Funeral Directors Association (afda.com.au) maintains a directory of members who subscribe to its code of practice. Funeral costs are generally not regulated by price, so comparison matters. Indicative costs range broadly — confirm current pricing directly with providers.

Pre-paid funerals are one way people choose to reduce the burden on family and lock in their wishes. They can be a sensible option, but they carry risks worth understanding: the funeral company could change ownership, close, or the terms could shift. If considering a pre-paid funeral, check whether the funds are held in a trust, what happens if you move interstate, and what is refundable if you change your mind. The Australian Securities and Investments Commission's Moneysmart website (moneysmart.gov.au) has consumer guidance on pre-paid funerals that is worth reading before signing anything.

Documenting end-of-life wishes — whether through a pre-paid funeral plan, a letter of wishes attached to a will, or a conversation with family — is one of the most considerate things a person can do. It removes the burden of guessing from the people left behind. Victoria also has a legal framework for advance care planning: an Advance Care Directive lets you record your medical wishes for a time when you cannot speak for them. Safer Care Victoria (safercare.vic.gov.au) has the official forms and guidance. This is separate from a will and does not replace legal or financial planning.

Grief Support: You Are Allowed to Ask for Help

Grief does not follow a schedule, and it often arrives sideways — in the supermarket, on a Tuesday afternoon, months after the death. For many women who have spent a lifetime caring for others, accepting support can feel unfamiliar. It is worth trying anyway. Grief Australia (grief.org.au) provides counselling, support groups and resources nationally, with services available in person, by phone and online. Many services are free or low-cost; confirm current availability and any fees directly with the provider.

Beyond Blue (beyondblue.org.au) and Lifeline (lifeline.org.au, 13 11 14) offer 24-hour phone and online support for anyone struggling with grief, depression or anxiety. GriefLine (griefline.org.au) specialises in grief and loss support. For Italian-speaking Victorians, community organisations such as Co.As.It. (coasit.com.au) offer social support services and can connect people with culturally appropriate grief support and community connection.

Your GP is a good first point of contact for both physical and emotional health after a bereavement. A Mental Health Care Plan, arranged through your GP, can provide access to subsidised sessions with a psychologist. Do not wait until you are in crisis to ask. The people around you — at your local church, your community centre, your cultural organisation — are often more willing to help than you might expect. Letting them is a kindness to them as much as to yourself.

Key takeaways

  • Register the death with Births, Deaths and Marriages Victoria — your funeral director typically lodges this on your behalf.
  • Notify Services Australia within 14 days of a death to avoid overpayments and to check bereavement payment eligibility.
  • The Australian Death Notification Service (deathnotification.gov.au) lets you notify multiple financial institutions in a single step.
  • Order several certified copies of the death certificate at registration — each additional copy later costs time and money.
  • Pre-paid funerals can be useful but carry risks; check whether funds are held in trust and what the refund terms are before signing.
  • Grief support is available free or low-cost through Grief Australia, GriefLine, and community organisations — asking for help is a practical step, not a last resort.

Frequently asked questions

What to do after a bereavement — practical steps and supports.

In the first days: ensure the death is registered with Births, Deaths and Marriages Victoria (your funeral director usually handles this), and obtain several certified copies of the death certificate. Notify Services Australia within 14 days to stop the deceased's payments and check your own entitlements, including any bereavement payment. Use the Australian Death Notification Service (deathnotification.gov.au) to notify multiple banks and financial institutions at once. Cancel or transfer utilities, subscriptions and concession accounts. Locate the will and speak with a solicitor or Victoria Legal Aid about the estate. For emotional support, contact Grief Australia (grief.org.au), GriefLine (griefline.org.au) or Lifeline (13 11 14). Your GP can arrange a Mental Health Care Plan for subsidised counselling. This is general information; seek legal, financial and medical advice for your own circumstances.

How to plan for funeral and end-of-life wishes?

Start by documenting your wishes clearly — this can be a letter of wishes attached to your will, a conversation with family, or a formal pre-paid funeral arrangement. Request itemised quotes from at least two or three funeral providers before committing to any arrangement; the Australian Funeral Directors Association (afda.com.au) lists members who subscribe to a code of practice. If considering a pre-paid funeral, check whether funds are held in trust, what happens if the provider changes ownership, and what is refundable. For medical wishes, an Advance Care Directive under Victorian law lets you record your preferences for a time when you cannot speak for yourself — official forms are available through Safer Care Victoria (safercare.vic.gov.au). A will prepared with a solicitor is the appropriate place for decisions about your estate and assets. Victoria Legal Aid (legalaid.vic.gov.au) can provide general guidance and referrals.

Am I entitled to a bereavement payment from Services Australia?

You may be entitled to a bereavement payment if you were the partner of the person who died and you were both receiving certain government payments. The amount and duration depend on your specific circumstances and the payments involved. Visit servicesaustralia.gov.au/bereavement or call the Services Australia Bereavement Line to check what applies to you. Payment amounts and thresholds change, so always confirm current figures directly with Services Australia rather than relying on any printed source.

Does an estate always need to go through probate in Victoria?

Not always. Whether probate is required depends on the size and nature of the estate's assets. Many financial institutions and the Titles Office will require a grant of probate from the Supreme Court of Victoria before releasing significant assets, but smaller estates or jointly held assets may not. The Supreme Court of Victoria's website (supremecourt.vic.gov.au) outlines the current process. Victoria Legal Aid (legalaid.vic.gov.au) and State Trustees (statetrustees.com.au) can provide general guidance. For decisions about a specific estate, seek qualified legal advice.

What concessions might change after a bereavement in Victoria?

If you were previously assessed as part of a couple for Centrelink payments or concessions, your entitlements may change when you become single. In some cases, the single rate of pension is higher than the partnered rate, which can increase your income. Your Pensioner Concession Card or Commonwealth Seniors Health Card status may need to be updated with Services Australia. Utility concessions in Victoria — for electricity, gas, water and rates — are listed at concessions.vic.gov.au, and you may need to re-apply in your own name if accounts were previously in the deceased's name. A financial counsellor or community health social worker can help identify everything you may be entitled to.

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Money, insurance & concessions: general information only. This is not financial, insurance, tax or legal advice and does not consider anyone’s personal circumstances. Insurance cover varies — read the Product Disclosure Statement (PDS) and Target Market Determination before buying, and consider advice from a licensed professional. Concession and eligibility rules change; confirm current details with the relevant government body or provider.

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